TJ writes:

When you are in a partnership, things usually have to be equal to work. But sometimes, the needs of one outweigh the other.

Before I left work on Wednesday, it was made clear to me that I can’t keep missing work for too much longer. I have to work to support us. I am not mad at my employer. I understand completely where they are coming from.

Couple that with the need to find Eric the best possible care, I have to put his needs above my own wishes.

That being said, on Monday, Eric will be moved to a facility in Ohio that can hopefully get him the care he needs. His family is only an hour away and I have been assured people will be with him every day because I won’t be able too anymore. I will go out as often as I can.

Eric agreed with this decision. I told him this was just a bump in our journey together. He told me he loved me.

But make no mistake. He might be going away from here, but it is not for good. He is my home and I am his. That is all that matters.

Tj Klune shared a link: “Eric Arvin Support Fund”: “I don’t like to ask for things. I am proud like that, to a fault. But I need to set that aside for Eric and his health.

Plans are being set in motion to move Eric from this awful hospital. Unfortunately, such a move to another facility is going to fall and Eric and I to cover, as it is not considered a medical necessity.

The cold reality of this too is even though that number already says 41k, half of that is already gone. Over a month into this, we have had to pay for flights And hotels and gas and food and dozens of other things to keep friends and family close.

If you can help, please do. I can’t even begin to thank you enough for what you have done, but this road he and I are on has only just begun. If you can’t, that is okay. Your kind words have been a great comfort to all of us.

TJ

Link to Fund

Apparently a lot of the backstage passes I sent out didn’t arrive so I’m going to resend them.

Not super happy but mostly because they went out a while ago and should have gotten to every place already. So if you get two, smooches and I’m sorry 😀

Actually I’m sorry if you never got ONE. Growls. Really, dudes… so annoying.

Tj Klune updated his status: “Slept okay last night. Kept having dreams Eric and I were in an earthquake and survived and then there were wizards and something or some such. One more night of sleep and I go back tomorrow.

I feel better too, knowing that Abi and an Anon Crack Crew member are down there guarding him like they do so well. That being said, a neuro came in today and felt the need to go over the worst case scenario with Eric again (vent forever, not able to move arms and legs ever again). This of course freaked out Eric. I calmly told him when they called me that all we’ve heard is the “worst case scenario” this whole time and he’s alive with his brain intact and that wasn’t even supposed to happen, so fuck that guy, and fuck everyone who doesn’t believe.

But while I was reassuring him, thoughts kept playing over and over in my head. What IF he doesn’t get better? What IF he is paralyzed from the neck down and on a vent for the rest of his life, however long that would be? What IF, what IF, what IF?

I answered myself quite clearly: it won’t matter to me. I will take him anyway that I can get him. It doesn’t matter if he’ll come with a cane or with wheels and attached to a ventilator, every day we have is a day that I will love him just a little bit more.

Let’s go, let’s go, let’s go.”