So You Write Like A Girl…

The funny thing about being an author in the M/M romance arena you read the oddest things in the genre’s reviews. One of them is: I can tell this was written by a woman…

woolfNow I’ll have to admit, I’ve always found this offensive and for the life of me, I couldn’t figure out why. Mostly because I didn’t toss a lot of brain at it but upon reflection and a bit of discussion with other people, I think I’ve narrowed down why it’s offensive.

It’s kind of like the schoolyard taunt of “You throw like a girl.”

See, it’s a double edged sword. One, that being female means you have less ability and two, that you should thus be ashamed of being female because you are so much less.

Now, I’ve never considered myself an activist but apparently there’s a piece of me that is rather offended by the whole “I should be ashamed I have a vagina” thing. Well, that and apparently it does my writing. I’m not even sure how that works and to be honest, if it’s doing the writing, perhaps it can continue to do so in the middle of the night without my help because really, does it need to sleep?

Rather absurd image, isn’t it?

I’m not sure why this phrase is supposed to be offensive and more importantly, what defines “writing like a woman”?

WildeI could spend time condemning people who say this. I could but honestly, I’m not sure I care that much. Do I write like a woman? I write as a woman but I write as a writer. Not with my gender but with my experiences and my brain. I am not less because of my gender. I am not less of a writer because I write in a style someone might or might not care for. I will not be made to feel ashamed because I don’t have exterior genitalia any more than I would ask someone to be ashamed because he doesn’t have interior bits.

Connecting my writing ability to a dick or vagina won’t change how I write or what I write because the person I am is who does the writing.

So yeah, I write like a girl.

And I’m going to own that shit because that single fact doesn’t define me—any more than my sexual orientation, cultural identity or my love of coffee.

Okay, the coffee probably defines me but hey, I’ll own that shit too.

Eric and TJ Update Jan 12

TJ Writes: We have been in the hospital for one month as of today. Eric asked if he could wear the engagement ring I got him. How could I say no to that?

Even better news today to mark the first month. If all goes well the next two days with his breathing, they are going to change the traech on and he will be able to speak aloud for the first time since December 12. I can’t wait to hear his voice.

Taste of Rhys Ford’s Dirty Deeds

Dirty_Deeds_CoverExcerpt from Dirty Deeds

We went to bed that night and lay on opposite sides of the bed for about fifteen minutes. Then, I rolled over to reach for him and Jae was already there, folding his arms around my body and kissing my face. I’d needed to touch him, to know he was there, and I’d moved without even thinking about it.

“I’m sorry,” I murmured into his neck. “I don’t want to hurt you.”

“Cole-ah, some days you hurt me simply by breathing.” His words were quick, short jabs, but they found their mark, leaving me bleeding out through a thousand shallow cuts. “And then there are days when I love you so much I don’t mind the pain.”

His kiss healed anything left over after the initial volley, and I cuddled him close, reveling in the feel of his skin on mine. We often slept naked, a risk sometimes, especially if one of us forgot to trim Neko’s nails, but he felt damned good on me, a satiny length of sensual comfort on my rough emotions.

Clockwork Tangerine Excerpt

Clockwork TangerineExcerpt from Clockwork Tangerine (Standalone steampunk novella) by Rhys Ford
Release Date: Feb 19, 2014 by Dreamspinner Press

The stink of St. Francisco crept into Marcus’s nose and stayed there, an unwelcome sensory vermin plaguing him at every step. Fog hung in the alleyways, catching on the corners of buildings and shrouding Little Orient’s arcane-fueled street lamps. The faint orange glow they cast was barely enough to see by on a clear night, and once a heavy soup rolled in off the bay’s murky water, the ill-maintained orbs were dimmed to a pale tangerine wash.

Definitely not enough light to see anything other than dark, slinky shapes at the edge of his vision but certainly bright enough to warn off any cutpurses lurking in the pea-soup thick shadows beyond. He’d been a fool to come down to Little Orient near dusk, but his grandmother had begged, something she rarely did.

Well, unless she thought she could get away with it.

“I thought I had enough.” Her soft, round face sported few wrinkles, and her cotton-floss hair was suspiciously bright gold, but the elderly woman wore her age well. “Please, Marcus. It would be such a disappointment if it wasn’t served.”

She’d been his only maternal influence after his own mother fled the Commonwealth to head back to London, and Marcus hated disappointing her. Hosting afternoon breakfasts for the West Commonwealth’s society were the highlight of his grandmother’s week, and if she needed a particular jasmine tea for it, he would damn well get it for her.

Now in the misty shadows of the district’s spice and sewer perfumed air, Marcus wondered if he’d not made a mistake, and he would have been better off popping down to Woolworth’s Tea Emporium for a more mundane leaf.

“She would know,” he reminded himself, hefting his sword cane up and checking the fill of his pocket where his pistol hung heavy in his overcoat. “She always knows.”

The package of tea was light enough in his other pocket, not enough of a weight to trouble him, but it seemed to weigh him down with every step. Obligations. Family obligations. That was what the tea represented. The need to produce… to succeed in order to further the family line. Even if he was only the third son and a poor representation of the dukedom.

A chance quirk of filial bloodlines gifted him with a title, a viscount to put in front of his name, but it felt awkward hanging on his shoulders. He felt more at home in the boxing ring, schooling lesser men on the proper ways to defend themselves, or even riding with the hounds, chasing after a metallic gewgaw covered in rabbit fur rather than the traditional Reynard.

The industrialists made their mark in odd ways, filling the skies with bloated tick-like balloons strong enough to carry a man across oceans or steam-driven contraptions loud enough to frighten a sensible horse on the roads, but strangely enough, it was the faux fox that angered arcanists the most.

“It’s a violation of the natural order! They’ll be the death of us. The death of the British Empire!” His father harrumphed more than once as he read the Post at the breakfast table. He’d been a walrus of a man, bristling with a thick mustache and even thicker eyebrows, his ever-increasing belly popping more than a few buttons on his waistcoat when he blustered his opinions at the Commonwealth’s House of Lords.

In the end, the duke was right in his own way. It’d been a skitter that killed his father, a hand-sized mechanical leftover from the Society’s attempted coup against the newly crowned Queen. Hidden in the Lords’ Hall voting chambers, the spindly legged mechanism somehow activated and attacked the man nearest to its hiding place, his blustering but large-hearted father. The Duke’s last words as he lay dying on the House floor were of his family and to curse the industrialists who brought doom to the British Empire.

TJ and Eric Update

TJ writes: Good day today. In fact, I might even say it’s a great day. Eric‘s breathing numbers are the best they’ve been since he was admitted to the hospital almost a month ago. We may stumble a bit, but we’re never knocked off our feet. We are making huge strides.

Yeah, it’s a great day.

TJ and Eric Thoughts

If there is one thing I’ve learned through this whole ordeal with Eric, it’s that people as a whole are kind and good. Specifically people that don’t know us personally.

TJ Writes: When I came home the first time a few days after Eric was taken to the hospital in Richmond, I found flowers on our doorstep. Our next door neighbors, a middle aged couple with kids, had left them there with a note saying they had seen us leave in the ambulance a few days before and they hoped everything was okay. I was very touched and wrote them a small thank you note.

I got home from work today, and as I was going in the house, the father was coming out. He asked if Eric was okay, and I ended up spilling more than I planned to. He listened and when I was finished, he said “Everything is going to be okay. God has blessed you both.”

I don’t know if I believe in God, but I will forever believe that people are good. It’s that gesture and the ones made by all of you with your words and donations that have kept us afloat during all of this. I will never be able to thank you enough.

TJ and Eric Update!

From TJ:

Eric is safe and sound in the new hospital. His blood pressure dropped a bit as did his breathing, but they have it under control and getting it back to where it was this morning. Time for the hard work to begin, but he’s come this far already, and I know in my heart he has no plans in stopping.

Let’s go, let’s go, let’s go.